Whether you think you can or you think
you can’t - You’re right – Henry FordAt this time of year many of us make New Years
Resolutions, but as you may know, we are not very good at keeping them. In fact, 90% of resolutions are broken within
the first month. You want to make the
changes but the old habits are difficult to break. It is so frustrating when
you have all the best intentions but still find yourself on that old worn path.
This year I would like to see you make those changes.
First, be compassionate with yourself. Know that it is natural to default back to
old habits, especially under the stress of change. Know that you are enough
just as you are and you are worth the work it takes.
Here’s a beginning step. Instead of a complete make-over, just choose
one thing to tweak. Then set a series of a small goals that are more easily
achievable and trackable.
Let’s look at weight loss. A small goal might be
losing 5 pounds per month. In starting your that goal the first part is
easy. Some of the reasons people overeat
are anger, boredom, depression and loneliness.
These emotions get in the way making dieting difficult and the old “I can’t,” voices get
louder. Know that that’s the old
Change always comes from within. You can move away from those negative inner
voices and gain a new perspective by practicing heart balance. Set yourself up
for success. Reframe the “I can’t” to “I can”.
One of the challenges when changing emotional
habits is that the emotions and the stress reaction that occurs with them
hijack the rational part of your brain. I have often talked about how making a
change involves letting go of old habits that didn’t serve you. Shifting to
heart balance brings an inner calmness that stops the stress and allows the new
habit to become second nature.
Balancing your stress and managing your reactions to
emotional eating is a pattern that is breakable. Becoming heart-balanced gives
you the tools to empower yourself to make behavioral changes. For example, the wisdom of your heart guides
you to find ways to make diet choices that keep you on track.
Here is a place
I can help. Working with a coach can be
invaluable in keeping you accountable, and in bringing you perspectives you
wouldn’t necessarily get on your own. I
will partner with you in keeping to your goals. My clients have told me that the
work we do together can be transformative and has really helped them to break
old unwanted patterns.
If any of this resonates with you, let’s begin the
process by contacting me for a consult.
So the best of luck on a new transformative 2016.
“If you felt
down yesterday. Stand up today.” H. G. Wells